The Aziz Ansari Situation

First let me say, that I can absolutely understand why some people are upset to hear this story given that Ansari is very outspoken about feminism. I am too, but no way in hell does that mean that he gets a pass or that he didn’t do what he was accused of.

If you are unaware of the situation please refer to this article and then come back to talk to me.

At first, I didn’t really think that I would feel the need to speak about this given the #MeToo movement and how vocal sexual assault survivors have been lately. However, apparently there are still some people out there who don’t get it. There have been certain comments that have come up repeatedly on social media and I am going to respond to those comments in particular. I may not be able to touch on everything that’s been said as I’m only responding to the things that I have personally seen so if you want to add more feel free to do so.


“I need more information.”/”I need to hear his side.”

Why? Why isn’t the victim’s side ever enough? Even if he did admit it, these people just end up saying “he couldn’t control himself” or “you probably led him on” or some other bullshit that puts the victim at fault. NO. The victim is never responsible for their abuser’s actions. The abuser and ONLY THE ABUSER IS AT FAULT.

“Did he really do anything wrong?”

YES. First of all, just because she performed oral sex does not mean that she would automatically agree to intercourse so don’t even bring it up. Second, repeatedly putting her hand on his penis is not acceptable. The first time that she resisted, it should have been over with. PERIOD. If someone moves away every time you come near them, that does not mean to keep following them. When someone clearly doesn’t want to do something and you keep pressuring them, it’s coercion. Coercion is a form of sexual assault. Most people seem to think that this isn’t a big deal but seriously this shit is not okay.

 

 

“But he apologized.”

SO THE FUCK WHAT! Apologizing for your wrongdoing does not make it acceptable. Saying “I’m sorry” doesn’t erase what you did. Stop using this shit as an excuse.

“Everything is sexual assault now.”

No, asshole. People are finally just tired of being silenced and putting up with this shit. What we call sexual assault/harassment was the same thing years ago, people either didn’t know what to call it, or were afraid of that exact response and the fact that people still think this shit is a game.

So there. That’s my two cents.


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Bookish Quotes #17

Welcome to Bookish Quotes where I share quotes from books, about books or by my favorite authors.


“A shared history does not entitle you to a future.”

~ Omar al Sadiq, The Wrath & the Dawn by Renee Ahdieh


The inspiration for this quote comes from a very good post that someone else wrote about the Hunger Games. This doesn’t have much to do with the other post but it did get me thinking.

Part of the reason that I never rooted for Gale was because he felt entitled to Katniss. I mean, I get it. They have been best friends since forever and there’s no shame in him falling for her. However, there absolutely is shame in guilt tripping her into a kiss just because your feelings are hurt. But that’s just my opinion.

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Amazon #bookreviews: what #bookbloggers need to know

I don’t do reviews on Amazon but for anyone who does

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Most of the book bloggers I know post their book reviews to Amazon as well as to their blog.  I usually post mine to my blog first, then Goodreads, Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Indigo, etc.

Although Amazon is usually very quick to publish my reviews, there have been a few occasions when my reviews got rejected!

The first time this happened I couldn’t for the life of me figure out what I had done wrong.  WELL… it turns out that Amazon runs an algorithm to STOP certain keywords.  And my innocent little reviews got caught in that algorithm.

It might be something very innocent. My two rejections included the expressions “a cock-up” (to make a mess of things) included in my review of “Death in profile” by Guy Fraser-Sampson, AND “wankers” (British insult describing  contemptible persons) which is included in

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Author Review | Marissa Meyer

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So far I have read six novels and four novels that Marissa Meyer has written. This includes The Lunar Chronicles (a full (spoil free) review can be found here) and Heartless (I did not review it, but gave it 3 stars).

I loved The Lunar Chronicles. I had heard such great things about it and I couldn’t wait to start reading it. I love the way that she’s taken these classic stories that (almost) everyone knows and made it modern and high tech. I think she did a fantastic job with it and (most) of the novellas added to the storyline that she created and sprinkled in nice little details.

As for Heartless, it started off very slow for me but eventually started to get interesting. I’ve never read Alice in Wonderland though so I don’t really remember much about the Queen of Hearts aside from “off with their head!” but I did really enjoy the story, and the characters.

I really love Meyers imagination. The only thing that I don’t like is that sometimes. in the middle of a story, I sometimes get a little bored because I feel like nothing’s really happening. I felt that way, not only with Heartless, but also a bit in Cinder and throughout most of Cress.

Marissa Meyer’s gets a 3 out of 5 stars


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Bookish Quotes #16 + Oprah’s Golden Globe Speech

Welcome to Bookish Quotes where I share quotes from books, about books or by my favorite authors.


“How many women had to hit that glass before the pressure of their effort caused it to evolve from a thick pane of glass into just a thin sheet of splintered ice? So that when it was my turn to run, it didn’t even look like a ceiling anymore?”

~ Year of Yes: How to Dance It Out, Stand in the Sun, and Be Your Own Person by Shonda Rhimes


I love this quote, because it’s so true. We have come along way and I am so thankful for the women that have shattered the glass ceilings that we face because we would not where we are today without them.

I don’t know if you all watched the Golden Globes last night but it was a huge deal. Not necessarily for the stars but for the message that they chose to send. Wearing black, standing in solidarity in the fight for equality, celebrating the women (and men) who have come forward to speak their truth, share their stories, and let the rest of us know that we are not alone in our fight.

One of the best parts of the night was Oprah being the first black woman to win the Cecil B. de Mille Award and giving a beautiful and moving speech. If you missed the speech, here it is.


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December Wrap Up! 2017

Not a very busy month with the holidays and building my own website (which I’m not sure I will continue to pursue) but here’s what I’ve been up to.

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Need Recipes!

Hi all,

I’ve started doing Meatless Mondays so I would really appreciate if you could share any vegetarian or vegan recipes that you like please do!

Thanks

~Rae


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