Rae’s Rules to Remember #81: Stop using the term “friend-zoned”

If you Google the definition of “friend zone” right now, this is what comes up:

“a situation in which a friendship exists between two people, one of whom has an unreciprocated romantic or sexual interest in the other.”

The key word in that definition is unreciprocated. 

You are not owed love, attention or affection from someone just because you have interest in them. Liking or even loving them does not mean that they have to feel the same way about you. Rejection happens to everyone. Sure, it may suck but you can’t force someone to like you. Get over it.

Stop trying to get sympathy because you didn’t get what you wanted and respect that person’s right to say no.


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4 Responses to Rae’s Rules to Remember #81: Stop using the term “friend-zoned”

  1. darthtimon says:

    Reblogged this on Coalition of the Brave and commented:
    The friendzone isn’t a real thing. Get over the fact the other person isn’t into you. They don’t owe you a thing.

    Liked by 2 people

  2. thebookcorps says:

    I had a massive argument with a male friend over this topic, and it really changed my perception of him because he didn’t think the friend zone was a bad thing. To me, that term is just rooted with sexist assumptions, primarily that if a man is a “nice enough guy” he is owed sex by a woman. That is 100% not the case. And I have always found that when a man complains about being “put in the friend zone” he thinks he has then been denied sex by the woman. It’s just so disgusting.

    Also, it diminishes the importance of platonic relationships – by the very nature of the term, it is suggesting that being in a friendship is a bad thing and that everyone should aspire to a romantic/sexual relationship. I really don’t like the connotations that has.

    In short, friend zone is a stupid term some lonely person came up with who got pissed that his feelings were not returned.

    Great post as usual!!

    Liked by 1 person

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