Rae’s Rules to Remember #77: Stop Slut Shaming

*I apologize in advance that language here is very binary, but keep reading and you’ll see why*


According to the Merriam-Webster Dictionary (and almost every other dictionary) the definition of a slut is “a promiscuous woman.”

Ironically there’s no set word for a promiscuous man. Instead it’s believed that sleeping with multiple people is okay if a man does it because “men have needs” and “boys will be boys.”

Even from a young age, girls are given lectures about “keeping their legs closed” when they hit puberty, while boys are given condoms. Boys are expected to lose their virginity during their teenage years while girls are told that we should save ourselves for marriage. Nothing wrong with that of course, but it should be your choice to do so and not someone else’s.

Even still, it actually doesn’t matter what we do because we will be judged and called names no matter what. If we have sex we’re sluts but if we don’t we’re prudes. Damned if you do, damned if you don’t.

At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter if a woman decides to never have sex or have it every single day with a different person. You don’t get to judge her, call her names, or tell her what she can and cannot do. Especially if you praise men for doing the same damn thing.

This word is so ingrained in our vocabulary that girls call other girls sluts for pretty much any reason possible. She lost her virginity? What a slut.She’s dating a new guy? Such a slut. She wore that short dress to homecoming? She’s so slutty. Congratulations to the patriarchy for embedding internalized sexism into the brains of young girls everywhere and shame on you for not taking a stance against it.

The first time that I was called a slut was in the second grade. No, I was not having sex in the second grade or doing any other sexual activity but that doesn’t matter. One of the other girls called me a slut because I was friends with a guy that she had a crush on. The kid was friendly, nice to everyone. She could’ve been friends with him too but she was too scared to talk to him.But I’m a slut right? Somehow that was my fault.

Women can like sex too. Women should be proud of their bodies. Women are allowed to own their sexuality. Mind your own business and let them do what they want.

Stop slut shaming.


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Hi! I'm Rae. 23. Avid Reader, Book Blogger. Intersectional Feminist. Gryffindor.
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22 Responses to Rae’s Rules to Remember #77: Stop Slut Shaming

  1. Preach it, sister!!! ❤

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  2. A Ginger Against Extinction says:

    I endorse this wholeheartedly 🙂

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  3. Is being a slut shameful?

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    • No. Sex is a very normal thing. Of course, each individual person will feel differently about how often sex is had and with how many partners but it’s not fair to shame people for having different views on it.
      The word itself has become shameful because of the way that it’s used but there are some women who are trying to reclaim it and take on the title proudly. That I approve of, but I am not okay with using it to condemn someone. Does that make sense?

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      • I always kind of liked slutty girls. You know, I was friends with a few and dated 2 and have known quite a few over the years. Slutty women are fun and interesting, always doing things, a lot more open and accepting. I do wish that the behavior that people call slutty wasn’t condemned, or used as a shaming concept.

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      • I agree, it shouldn’t be shameful. Being sexually adventurous and/or open about your sex life should never be a bad thing. As long as it’s safe and there’s consent, what anybody else thinks doesn’t matter.

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  4. thebookcorps says:

    Great post!!! I agree 100%. It honestly scares me how much that word has become ingrained in our society, especially in the minds of children and teenagers. We need to teach the younger generation that there is nothing wrong with a woman having sex and that it is wrong to call her such a word when her male counterpart is doing the exact same thing and everyone is ok with it.

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  5. ashley says:

    This post is amazing, and everything is so true.

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  6. ncthomasblog says:

    This is an excellent blog. We in the UK are completely inundated with this atm. Only today a national newspaper turned a meeting between the two most powerful women in our country into a “sexy legs contest.” I’m so fed up with it. And I’m scared. I have a daughter. I have to teach her self-worth whilst society states otherwise.

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  8. Perfectly explains my thoughts.

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