A friend of mine shared a video that’s floating around on Facebook of a guy explaining that social media is the “number one killer of relationships” because you have thousands of people at your fingertips. Other reasons include: if you have a fight with your so someone online can cheer you up or that when you may see other people posting their relationships and start comparing yours to theirs.
There may have been other reasons but either way, all of this is bullshit.
First of all if you’re comparing your relationship to someone else’s you need to take a step back and be realistic. People post what they choose to post. You only see what they allow you to see, and you know nothing that goes on behind the scenes. No relationship is perfect because no one is perfect. Couples fight, they piss each other off. But that’s between you and your S.O. Stop worrying about other people and focus on your own relationship.
Also, aside from family and best friends, you shouldn’t be running to another person every time you get into it with your partner. Again, no one is perfect but you need to communicate. If you’re not talking to each other how will your relationships survive?
Having people at your fingertips has nothing to with your relationship. At least it shouldn’t. If it does it’s because you’ve invited people in.
I don’t understand why people continue to blame social media for failed relationships. Did social media tell you to talk to that person behind your S.O.’s back? No. you made that choice. Did social media tell you to broadcast your personal business on the internet for all of the world to see? No, you made that choice. Was social media solely created for the purpose of screwing up your relationship? No, you made that choice. All of these things are caused by choices that people make. Social media is an inanimate object that is incapable of really “doing” anything. Blaming it for ruining relationships is just an excuse to not hold people accountable for their actions.
The bottom line is: social media doesn’t ruin relationships. People do.
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Reblogged this on The Patchwork Diaries and commented:
Truth!! Hubs and I have been living apart for almost a year now, we both have our own private social media and our relationship is actually stronger now than it’s ever been. Social media might make the temptation to cheat more in your face available, but at the end of the day it depends on both partners and their commitment to each other. Social media has little to do with it, aside from a convienent excuse.
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Thank you!
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No problem! I thought it was really well said. You’re exactly right.
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