Rae’s Rules to Remember #69: What feminism is….and what it isn’t

There are a lot of misconceptions floating around about feminism that cause people to think that it’s something that it isn’t. A lot of these people don’t seem to understand that the feminist movement has changed a lot over time. The movement today looks totally different from what it did 50 years ago. It’s had to as time has changed and needs are different.

If you are confused about what feminism is, please educate yourself before writing it off. Too many times someone has tried to attack me for saying that I’m a feminist. Then, when I asked them what they believed in and what they stood for, turns out that our answers were the same. The only difference is that they called it something else. At the end of the day, the name doesn’t matter. It’s the movement and what we’re fighting for that are important.

I’m not able to include everything in this post, otherwise it would be endless. If after reading this you have questions, want to share your thoughts or spark up a discussion feel free. Hate speech and hurtful comments will not be tolerated.

Feminism is not about hating or trying to get rid of them. There most certainly are some women who claim to be feminist and who hate men. These women have been badly wronged by men and they are angry. They have a right to be angry. However, while they do uphold some feminist values, I personally do not agree with hating men. I find it contradictory to the purpose of feminism which is equality. Well, you can’t claim that you want equality if you’re trying to tear someone else down to get it. It won’t work that way and it defeats the purpose.

Feminism is not supportive of slut shaming. Never put someone down for  owning their sexuality. Women like sex too you know. It doesn’t make them impure or “slutty” it means…. they like sex. So what?

Feminism is not about belittling housewives or stay at home moms. Yes, the movement was once heavily focused on encouraging women to get out of the home and into the work force. Not to make it mandatory, but to give women the option to do so. There are still some glass ceilings that need to be broken, but if a woman decides she wants to stay at home then it is her choice and it doesn’t mean she can’t be a feminist.  We need to respect each others career choices.

Feminism is not solely about bra burning and not shaving. If you know me, then you know that I am all about defying so called “beauty standards” if going braless and not shaving your legs is how you do it then more power to you. No one has the right to tell you that you can’t be comfortable in your own skin, but remember that the movement is bigger than just that.

Feminism does not condone victim blaming. Whether the topic is sexual assault, domestic violence or whatever else, it is never the victim’s fault. Attackers need to be held accountable for their actions. Period.

Feminism should never shame women. I’ve already given a lot of examples for this but seriously. If feminism started as a way to uplift women, then why would we start putting each other down now?

Feminism supports men too.  Gender equality means equality for men too. Men should have the same resources and support systems as women. Meaning that the assumptions that men can’t suffer from mental, physical, and sexual abuse need to be debunked. Men should also be able to express their emotions without their masculinity being threatened.

Feminism cannot exclude the trans or gender non conforming community. If you claim to be a feminist who wants gender equality, then you must support all genders. There’s no way around it. You either want gender equality or you don’t. If you are transphobic, then you don’t. If you refuse to accept the concept of gender fluidity and don’t believe that non-binary people exist, then you are not a feminist.

Feminism does not support body shaming. No fat shaming, no skinny shaming. Don’t tell anyone they need to lose wright, and don’t tell them they need to bulk up. Everyone should love their body. If they want to make changes it should be for their own satisfaction, not to conform to what “society says” is attractive.

I’ve said a lot about what feminism is not so you probably want to know what it is.

Feminism IS inclusive. Feminists believe in equality. We want everyone to receive equal treatment and resources which really isn’t a hard concept to grasp.

Feminism IS intersectional. We all have multiple identities that make up who we are. All of those identities need to be acknowledged in order for us to support each other. I can’t say that I respect and support someone if I refuse to acknowledge certain parts of their identity.

Feminism IS allyship. We are allies for marginalized groups that we are not a part of. Whether it’s people of different races/ethnicities, the LGBTQIA+ community, people with disabilities or illnesses, of different age groups, of different socioeconomic status, that practice a different religion, were born in different countries, etc. Whatever the case may be, feminism is meant to support people from all different walks of life.

Feminism IS for everyone. 

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24 Responses to Rae’s Rules to Remember #69: What feminism is….and what it isn’t

  1. darthtimon says:

    Well said! Can I share this to the Coalition?

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  2. [ Smiles ] Feminism is often misunderstood.

    Hopefully, more people would have a clearer understanding of feminism in the near future!

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  3. Rae, when men tell me what it is to be a woman, that they have a female penis, and describing periods is discriminatory, I think someone is sixpence short of a shilling,


  4. Alyssa says:

    This is a great description of what REAL feminism is! I’m going to share this on Queerly Texan!

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  6. Very well laid out. I found this educational. Thanks.

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  7. Idontwearahat. says:

    Great post. To my shame I only caught onto feminism last year, which has well and truly opened my eyes. I thought it was all men hating and bra burning. I get a lot of eye rolls for saying I’m a feminist, especially by men.

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  8. RanterWrites says:

    This is spot on! Love the part about slut shaming as that has always been something that’s REALLY bothered me for some reason. Especially when men who have a lot of sex get praised for it whilst women get disrespected and name-called!

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  9. Amazing post!!! This should be shared everywhere, honestly. Some people have such awful views on feminism without understanding it.

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  10. femvestige says:

    I love everything about this post. I have had many posts touching on a lot of what you say here on my own blog – but it is so refreshing to see it all in one thorough page. I love that you included stay-at-home mom’s and transgender. I love that you identify what is and is not feminism. Frankly, I just love this post. Thank you for your words.

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  13. Love this! Thank you so much for sharing. Following your blog now. 🙂

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