Feminism is about gender equality. If you are a person who believes in equality of all genders, then you are a feminist. There’s no way around it. It is what it is.
If you are someone who says that they are not a feminist, then that means that you don’t believe in or support equality. It means that you think that there has to be a gender that has more rights, opportunities and power over the others, and that you are okay with that.
Someone once told me that they believed in everything that feminism stood for, but did not want to call themselves one because of the negative connotation that came with it. So…what you’re saying is that you’re letting other people determine how you define yourself? You’re saying that instead of supporting and educating people about the movement that you believe in, you’re just going to let people continue to believe that its worthless?
Why? What is it about the word feminism that makes people freak out? Is it because of those first three letters? Why is that people see fem- and they start to run in the opposite direction? If you are one of those people, then you’re actually making the problem worse by shying away from a word that has the same beginning as female or feminine by thinking that being associated with those words is somehow insulting.
Combating feminism by claiming to be a “humanist” or “equalist” does nothing but reinforce the false assumptions that people have about feminism. So, if you want to claim that you are not a feminist, that is your choice. However, you need to understand what that actually means. It has nothing to do with hating men, burning bras, or trying to make women the “dominant” gender.
At the end of the day, if you are anti-feminist, then you are anti-equality and that says a lot about you as a person.