As you know by now, I am a feminist and I believe in gender equality. Naturally, some of the things that I hate most are double standards.
I am an African-American woman who is exactly five feet tall. People expect me to be soft spoken if not just quite. However, because I constantly speak my mind and make it known that I don’t care what other people think, people try to claim that I’m “aggressive,” “emotional,” and I often get stereotyped as the “angry black girl.”
Trust me, if I’m angry, you will know that I am angry. I’ll make sure of it. Calling me that just because I disagree with you, prove you wrong, or challenge what you say is bullshit. Don’t try to shut me up because you don’t have a valid argument.
If I were a man who always spoke his mind and challenged people, I would called “a leader,” “powerful,” and “confident.” Instead I’m “bossy,” “bitchy,” and “have an attitude.” A trend that I’ve noticed is that it’s always people who don’t know me at all (or very little) that try to label me.
I don’t have a problem with speaking up for myself and shutting other people down so let’s move on to the bigger issue here.
How often are women asked, “Who are you wearing?” on a red carpet. Oh and let’s not forget about the “mani cam.”
Why is that when guys come of age, they are given condoms but women are told “keep your knees shut, don’t be stupid and get pregnant.” People know that it takes two to make a baby right? Just checking.
Why if a woman has multiple sexual partners she’s a slut or a whore, but a man is a stud and “boys will be boys.”
Why is it perceived that women in power “slept their way to the top,” but men always work hard and earn it?
Why did I have to wear a skirt when I played lacrosse?
On the flip side of that, why are reporter’s given access to the men’s locker room but it’s seen as a privacy violation only for women. What if the men want to shower and celebrate in peace?
Why is it that on “What would you Do?” people jumped to help a woman being beaten by her boyfriend but watched when the woman was hitting him.
Why is is believed that men could never be victims of sexual assault and that they “always want it?”
Why are men supposedly not allowed to show emotion without it taking away their “manhood”
Do you see what I’m getting at here? All of this is bullshit. If you think that something is wrong, then it is wrong no matter who does the action. Stop sexualizing and degrading young girls and stop telling young boys to “man up.”
Stop letting society tell you that you have to live up to ridiculous, sexist standards and take stand.